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The Inner Dynamics System (IDS) for Personal Development

When we became life and business partners in 1990 our combined training and experience assisted us in developing the Inner Dynamics System for personal development. This post explains the model with comments and feedback about the application and results.

DYNAMIC LIVING…WITH...
THE INNER DYNAMICS SYSTEM (IDS)

The ideas I stand for are not mine.
I borrowed them from Socrates.
I swiped them from Chesterfild.
I took some from Jesus
And then I wrote the down.
If you don’t like their rules…
Whose would you use?

--Dale Carnegie

MISSION STATEMENT:

To promote health, wholeness, personal, interpersonal and spiritual well-being by providing tools that effectively assists clients in their respective life situations.

The foundation for our two companies Fresh Beginnings (FB) and Perspectives on Health Living (POHL) are based on the Inner Dynamics System (IDS).  It was created by life coaches Coralie Darsey-Malloy and David Malloy and they used this methodology in the various areas of their work since 1987.

About life coaches Coralie Darsey-Malloy and David Malloy

Coralie Darsey-Malloy and David Malloy have been in the health and wellness field since 1987 and have over thirty-five years combined experience.  Coralie and David write produce and present their ideas in individual and group settings and continually develop and expand their concepts to align with changing social needs. The Inner Dynamics System has proven track records and the life strategies offered at Fresh Beginnings continue to assist clients in achieving and maintaining their goals.
Through the Inner Dynamics System of life coaching we assess underlying causes that can be holding you back. Some of which include poor self-image, not being true to yourself, inability to establish boundaries, negative self-talk lack of emotional safety and fear-based thinking. After an initial assessment practical solutions are offered for each specific issue.
Within the Inner Dynamics System we assist you in figuring out why you're a clutter-bug…but also provide ways to downsize and eliminate the clutter. Perhaps your need involves a desire to remain healthy, strong and resilient at any stage of life. 

Maybe your goal is to be able to say ‘no’ without feeling guilty or to reduce conflict or improve communication skills. Within any area of self-change…life coaching is a safe, affordable process.
 Whatever the desired outcome we resolve problems from the ‘inside out’ and provide emotional support every step of the way.
 
What is the Inner Dynamics System? 

The Inner Dynamics System (IDS) is a personal development model that can be applied to any area of life.  By developing clarity and discernment clients using this system quickly discover how to move out of superficial habits, conditioned thinking and compulsive coping patterns and/or addictions.

The tools within the system help to develop clear intentions about larger life goals and provide ways to achieve them. Within the life coaching process of the Inner Dynamics System clients discover how core beliefs and choice making is affects outer events. As greater awareness develops the IDS provides shortcuts to overcoming patterns of inertia, indecision and/or lack of direction. The method also developments critical thinking, awareness, understanding, accountability and leads to more balanced, authentic living.

The methods used identify outdated attitudes and beliefs and transforms them into ones that are more aligned to desired life changes. Inner Dynamics is a powerful combination of timely and timeless concepts and when applied leads to changes in the relationship with self, family, work and community. It goes beyond self-help and symptomatic relief and towards lasting transformation from the inside…out.

If you are interested in improving any area of life, then the life strategies/life coaching methods of the Inner Dynamics System may be for you.   All  sessions are conducted  in a confidential, supportive environment with a variety of options at affordable rates. Clients can choose the life coaching method that is appropriate to their respective situations…by phone, in person or within a group dynamic. All sessions are presented with a balance between structure and interactive fluidity.
Why is this approach different from other methods?

What distinguishes the IDS is that it can work with whatever is presented without judgment.  This approach is designed to map directly onto the client’s inner experience.  Clients are given tools that allow them to access the genesis and history of their outer symptoms and provide solutions to their challenges from the inside out. By re-framing and adapting outmoded attitudes and beliefs transformational changes occur at a pace that creates emotional safety and are sustainable over time.

The Inner Dynamics System provides assistance in the following areas:

* Accessing inner resources
*Assertiveness
* Body Image concerns
* Conflict resolution
* Creating safe emotional boundaries
* Effective communication
* Eating disorders
* Fiscal responsibility and abundance
* Communication skills
* Increases awareness, acceptance and self-worth
* Overcoming limiting attitudes and behaviors
* Renews a passion for life
*Resolves inner/outer conflicts
* Relationships
* Self-confidence/esteem
* Setting and achieving goals 
 * Time, self and stress management
* Weight management

Comments from those who have experience with the Inner Dynamics System:

The Regional Manager of Pembina Valley Regional Centre: Winkler, MB

On behalf of the Pembina Valley Regional Center and Red River Community College I am more than pleased to be able to recommend Coralie Darsey-Malloy and David Malloy as excellent presenters in areas of Personal Management, Interpersonal Effectiveness and Personal Mastery.  The Inner Dynamics System uses a positive, common-sense approach together with an enthusiastic and animated presentation and genuine concern for clients.  The methods and philosophy includes positive reinforcement and discovery of true inner strengths and self-worth

Manager Horseman Piling Contractors, Winnipeg,  MB

Coralie Darsey-Malloy and David Malloy assisted me and business colleagues in resolving differences.  I can only speak highly of their service and the Inner Dynamics System in facilitating clients seeking solutions to business and personal problems.  They are successful without being intrusive and they are experts at getting to the core of the problem without offending

CJOB Radio talk show host, Winnipeg, MB

Your appearance on CJOB’s showed your attitude refreshing and non-judgmental.  You do not lecture—you discuss and in a most unobtrusive fashion you manage to unearth real issues and assist others in dealing with them.  I continue to spread the word that the Inner Dynamics System is workable and upbeat! 
Talk show host…CKY television, Winnipeg, MB

David and Coralie have, over a period of several years assisted me in the preparation and presentation of television programs on the subject of personal development.  Their approach has constantly been to offer common sense recommendations in an interesting and animated way.  The audience response their presentation has always been enthusiastic and positive.


What we have to do is to be
forever testing new opinions
And courting new impressions.

--Walter Pater --1873

The Inner Pilot Light as the Foundation for Whole Health

Your Inner Pilot Light as the Foundation of Whole Health

By Coralie Darsey-Malloy & David Malloy

Our work in the personal development field involves a whole person approach to healthy, dynamic living. We encourage the people we work to assess their life in a wheel with different spokes where their energy glows out from their core essence.

It is difficult to have a good quality of life when the body, mind and spirit are out of balance. When any aspect of the self is creating discomfort it interferes with the ability to fulfill one’s life purpose or to channel energy in creatively satisfying endeavors.  

But after many years of working in the health and wellness field with clients from all walks of life we have opportunities to witness how people live their lives through the choices they make. The relationship between vibrant, radiant whole health and degrees of sickness and disease is immense and complicated and there’s a spectrum of health that looks something like this:

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SICK                                       WELL                                               WHOLE

There is a constant interplay between the mental, emotional, spiritual, physical and energetic fields and they come together when we tune into the Inner Pilot Light within our core essence and assess what aspects of life are and are not working and take health promoting steps to align them.  In our view the authentic self assists us in bringing the inner landscape and outer aspects of life into harmony. The Inner Pilot Light is the core essence of who we are and the foundation we either build upon or breakdown through misuse and lack of mindful choice making. Without it people eventually discover that they are not getting where they want to be because they’re attempting to create a firm foundation on on shifting sands.

For more information about the healthy, dynamic living services we provide check the Fresh Beginnings Personal Development Website at: www.fresh-beginnings.com

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Creating and Maintaining Healthy Relationships

By Coralie Darsey-Malloy and David Malloy

Together we have many years of individual and combined experience in the personal development field and between our training and experience we've learned a few things about the art of creating and maintaining healthy relationships. Being partnered in life and business creates a lot of interesting opportunities for growth even though it can be daunting at times. There have been times within our relationship where we both brought out sides of ourselves that made us question “who is this person?” Some of how we behaved and responded to each other made us feel as though we were unrecognizable and were the e anti-thesis of who we were and wanted to be. We prefer not to label relationships as "good or bad" and choose instead to view them as "healthy or unhealthy/balanced or unbalanced."

Within our own bond there have been some challenging situations and pivotal points where we could not believe who we’d become and how we were behaving. It was clear that we  were putting up with behaviors from each other that we would not accept with anyone else. Even though we were self-confident individuals before we met sometimes the triggers we set off in each created a feeling that we did not like who we were within the relationship itself. Given that we work in the self-development field we had enough knowledge and skill to stop and review things from our individual and collective perspectives.  

Within the Inner Dynamics Model for growth and transformation that we’d created we were able to apply the principle that the outer is always a mirror of the inner. During conflicted periods we would roll up our sleeves, dig deeper and assess what part of the problem is ours to own and work with…and which part was up to the other to deal with. Over the years we have learned that the best way to to maintain our mental sanity is to continue to  pursue vigorous self introspection. Whenever the outer events in our lives bring up negative mindsets and responses it is a clear message that something needs to be looked at and changed.  Emotions of anger, frustration, and insensitivity towards others can lead to self-absorbed ways of thinking and behaving and can and disrupt life. That is why we re-wrote a contract where we have agreed to deal with everything as it comes up in open, accountable and authentic ways.

 

 

We met in July 1990 and were married a year later and our shared journey continually provides new and exciting opportunities for personal growth and transformation. At one time we were of the mind that reasonably aware people should be able to remain grounded at all times through all things.  Through time we learned that is a form of ‘magical thinking” and not always possible when interacting with others who create triggers of emotion that we often do not know where they originate.  In our group and private sessions clients share their disappointments in their own behaviors and those of others who “bring out the worst in them.”

The one single rule of thumb in transforming the dynamics in all relationships is to begin by changing the one we have with ourselves. From there we all have to take responsibility for our own actions at all times. We may not be able to control the circumstances we’re in but there is always a choice in how to respond.

The gift within intimate emotional relationships is that they create a place for each of us to become more of who we truly are. Undoubtedly there are relationships that trigger old deep-seeded issues that have never been fully resolved. Others bring out aspects of the self that many do not even know were there. When we’re in relationships that make it feel that a person is ‘acting out of character’ they could be getting in touch with things that really “there” but they were not aware of until a person triggered something to say, ‘you need to look at this.’  The universe is always demanding that we grow and rather than agreeing to that reality some leave one relationship only to find they’re repeating the same dynamics over and over with different people.  Better to do the inner work and resolve the issues rather than holding onto mindsets and patterns that get in the way of healthy open relationships with others.

Our approach with clients is to encourage them in assessing whether their emotional reactions have or have not anything to do with the current person and event…or is it coming from some unhealed trauma in the past?  Once we move into the observer mode with this line of thinking we take our power back. When we perceive the person in front of us as a reminder that there are areas of life that needs some work it leads to self-accountable problem solving.

 

 

Putting oneself in a more neutral position assists in developing greater awareness about which person’s work it is to do. It is not healthy to stay with a person who continuously triggers negative reactions. By pushing the pause button and looking at the cause and effect of conflict more often than not both parties are contributing to one degree or another.   Their behavior is a perfect chance to tap you on the shoulder and not only see the unhealed areas within and assist in identifying possible red flags for future interactions.   

If the people we’re surrounded with are either unwilling or unable to work towards emotionally mature proactive problem solving then it may require walking away and working through personal issues with a counselor, therapist or other support systems. In so doing it is easier to develop the clarity needed to attract people who are also seeking healthy relationships based on mutual respect.

After many years of playing this game and being hit over the head with this lesson we finally got it.  We’ve both worked hard to co-create a marriage, sacred partnership and professional life where we strive to always bring out the best in each other. We are living proof that there are happy endings and “fresh beginnings” and that this concept is not a cliché after all.

 

 

 

 

Steps Towards Living an Authentic Life

LIVING AN AUTHTENTIC LIFE
By Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy

You cannot find yourself until you face the truth.
--Pearl Bailey
This concept is something that has become central to how I endeavor to live. I began a spiritual quest to discover my own truth after growing up in a family where nothing was ever as it appeared. My father's alcoholism and my mother's enabling created a quagmire of inconsistencies within
our family's inner and outer worlds. Within the seeming 'dysfunction' of my earlier years I have learned that it was a gift...because it set me on a path of discovery that would not have been possible without our 'shrouded' family dynamics.

My father abused me sexually, mentally and emotionally to the point that my innate sense of self
became extremely distorted and I began looking for love, acceptance and approval from outside sources. I developed the compulsive coping patterns anorexia and bulimia...and abused myself the way my father abused me. It took years of searching and questioning before I slowly
began to understand that looking for answers and acceptance through parents, friends, authorities, organized religions, the medical model, the fashion industry, image-management..only to discover nothing outside us will ever fulfill inner needs.

My first epiphany among many other light-bulb moments came when I had starved my body
down to 89 pounds. I thought being skinny would bring all that I was yearning for...but it did not. The truth of my skewed perception was a hard thing to accept. My fantasy about thin-ness translating into inner peace turned out to by a myth...because everything else in my life remained the same. Family problems remained, lack of intimacy remained, my life was still unbalanced and off-track. It has a hard reality to accept. But I was living a lie...I'd believed to be true. What a
turning point that was!

From that milestone moment I decided to change my beliefs...and change my life. I was able to overcome two eating disorders and years of laxative abuse by deciding my life wishes
were stronger than my death wishes. From there a commitment developed
to live an authentic life and create congruency between my inner and outer worlds..and it remains today. I know from personal and professional experience that no one will achieve complete fulfillment until they accept who they are from the inside...rather than allowing
others to define them from the outside. The process to becoming 'all that we are' is achieved through conscious living, and contemplative self-awareness.

Awareness is very curative and the foundation for all change and discovery, Learning to let go is the method that eventually leads to an expanded sense of self. In the material David and I present we suggest that anyone or anything that attempts to force an ideology or dogma on another will eventually lead to an inauthentic lifestyle In the most basic terms our view of spirituality is...a
matter of self-discovery..rather than of becoming something...or someone other than you are.
Internal conflicts frequently lead to alienation with others and whatever interpretation we put on our
association with Source. How can we ever expect there to be peace in the world if we, its inhabitants lack inner peace? A lack of harmony within our inner and outer worlds...cannot help but be projected
outward to a perception of "us" versus “them?" The divisiveness within a confused sense of self fosters judgments of others. "We" are right...and "they' are wrong..our religion, political beliefs, health models are the 'right' and only way...and all else is inferior.

Comparison always leads to discontent, confusion and...of course more judgment.
To truly live an authentic life we need to learn how to release self-deception. That involves complete honest with ourselves and the rest of the world. This level of integrity requires conscientious attention, emotional maturity, self-accountability, responsibility for the cause and effect of our choices, self-knowledge, willingness to change and an ability to be discerning and practice sincere internal scrutiny. A classic Buddhist question puts it this way: "Who were you and what did you look like before your parents were born?"

Looking at ourselves without form...and as a spiritual being within a body it becomes easier to accept that...at the heart of you, me, every single person, and all the creatures great and small there is
a pure light of love. That inner radiance reflects our essential nature is the larger truth of who we are...sparks of Divinity that are given life and a chance to celebrate our uniqueness in inwardly directed and authentic ways in this journey called life.

This innate luminosity is our essential Self..and as has been said before...God/Goddess does not create junk. Accepting that opens the door for anyone to live their best life...on their own terms. Because we are, from my perspective bright sources of energy...going through our various human
experiences. Wouldn't we have a lovely world is we could celebrate who we are...and everyone else within the One song of our humanity?

David and and I continually draw from our personal experiences and what we learned as we travel along our road of life and share them in our private and group life coaching seminars. We know that the most difficult thing to do is live beyond one's means in any area of life. Once we go deep within and assess who we are...and who we are not it opens unlimited doorways to self-disovery and being true to who we are...from the inside out. Living from that place of authenticity creates openness, trust and love without the need for self-guardedness and wearing masks that protect the need for "image-management."

We (client and coach) engage and facilitate change using state-of-the-art processes and programs to create harmony in your life and business matters. Balance is fine, but you want things to work together - that's harmony - a change agent's dream come true. Harmony evolves from the successful management of natural processes in the flow of chaos to order. Metamorphosis is an organic process of change that is seen in all levels of life.

Whether at the individual, the corporate or the global level of human life, the process of change involves natural periods of chaos and order; times of conflict that underlie the movement toward transformation, and developmental shifts that may be painful as well as pleasurable. A transformational coach and facilitator is a powerful tool for you. Being who we are and living with out inner and outer worlds in balanced is the pathway to living an authentic life. and accessing the ability to do so is what we offer through Fresh Beginnings Personal Development Co. www.fresh-beginnings.com

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